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What am I to do when I am 47 and been w/him for 10 yrs!?I have been married to my hubby for a year.We have been together for a total of 10 years.I am disabled due to Anxieties/Panic Attack/Agoraphobia Disorders.Which means I can't work and bring in any money!Okay, before we got married I was receiving SSI.I had money in my pocket to buy my kids or grandkids little goodies every now and then...or go get myself a burger or mountain dew.....you get the picture.AND I had medicaid since I am suppose to go to the doctor once a month and receive meds I have to take daily.SSI stopped once we got married.But now I am penniless!I already sit in our home day after day due to my disorders...but every once in a while, I'd like to go down the road....go through a drive thru and get some fries and a drink....or go for a quick shopping trip with my adult daughter.I can't do any of that cause he refuses to put me on his bank account....or even give me a ATM or debit card for it.....he leaves me maybe a 5 dollar bill every once in a blue moon.And if I ask him for money....and tell him I need about 20 dollars ...he gets irritated...lets out a deep breath and says in a sarcastic voice "Here!" And he will only do that once in a very blue moon!If he doesn't he will say...whatever you need I will take you and get it!Of course even then it is limited. He knows about my disabilities!he doesn't understand or even try to understand them!Insurance?LOL!His through his job SUX!!!!I am on it...but it is worthless since it has such a high deductible!!!And he won't pay out of pocket for me to go....he just wants me to stop taking my meds cause he says "They aren't working!You still can't go to work or barely leave the house!" I explained to him that there is no magic pil!if someone has diabetes or high blood pressure....they take meds to keep it under control,,,but it won't go away!But as I have found out a lot of people do not understand or believe anything about mental illness. With my 2 ex's...(one was my high school sweetheart..we married and grew apart but are good friends...the other beat me..) I never ever screwed anyone over with NOTHING!My HS sweetheart ex...he put me in charge of paying the bills, etc...and we had excellent credit.The wife beater ex...he wouldn't put me on any accounts or give me money!They do not know each other and I live in a wh*le different part of the country.I have enough common sense to know what I could spend and what I can't spend...and I am not a high maintenance girl.And I can spot something sitting on the side of the road and see potential in it...as in...I see it in my mind after I have cleaned it up and painted it, etc.I would love to be able to go and get me a new shirt (I go to clearance rakes!)...or if we need a new shower curtain...or I f I see something at Walmart for the house (I love to keep our home well decorated!) But I never have any money and he is my husband so its not "his" money anymore...it is "our" money now.But he doesn't see it that way I guess.I am very unhappy about this...but I have had so many (1 is enough) heart breaks in my life....I guess at my age now...I seem to just except things now that when I was younger I wouldn't.But yet.....if we get into a heated discussion...he will say "Why don't you try and leave the house and go somewhere?" DUH!!!!!With no money!!!!!!!!Oh well...I guess I am just the kind of girl that my heart just lets the man I love hurt it...and its okay cause I love him and can't see my life without him.Hopeless situation......
-Michael
Are you certain your medications are working?I was on medications for depression and anxiety, and none of them helped me one bit.They might as well have been sugar pills.I stopped taking them, and guess what?Things were the same as when I was on them.It's the situations in our lives that make us feel the way we do.It's the unresolved conflicts in our minds too.Pills don't make them go away.
Other than that, I think your husband should be more generous and share his money with you.That's not fair of him to hoard it all when you have no income.Too bad you decided to get married, you could have just lived with him and kept getting money.How much does he make though?If he's making a big fat salary and doesn't have a lot of expenses, an allowance of a hundred dollars or so each week would be reasonable I think.It says really bad things about him as a person that he complains about giving you $ 20 every now and then.It says that he is an inconsiderate a$ $ h*le.
But yeah, you are pretty stuck, aren't you?I'd say, keep bringing it up, keep talking to him about it, try to get him to see reason.Do you know any of his family members?Maybe you could talk to his mom about it all, and she could shame him into giving you more.symptoms - What to Know About Hypertension.
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